When something doesn't work, it haunts me. I know this isn't good, and that I can't let failed attempts get to me. I should be better at just shaking it off and moving on. I'm trying, but I'm not 100% there yet.
That's not my reality every time something new doesn't work out. Technical difficulties here. Feeling embarrassed there. Some of these hiccups mean nothing. But other times, my failures burrow into my brain for days, weeks, or even months - popping up when I'm at my most vulnerable and doing their best to make me feel like a total fraud.
Does this happen to you too? When things don't work out on the first go, and you want it out of your head, it still comes to mind when it's quiet?
The tendency spiral into "I messed up" mentality, is something I'm really trying to figure out. Why do these unsuccessful attempts seem to knock our confidence? Why do we feel foolish when it doesn't work out? And better yet, why do we let that impact our ability to keep trying?
Obviously, nobody likes to feel stupid. I get that. What I can't figure out is why we feel stupid at all.
When we think about what we've done over the years, we see lots of failures and success. Our past is one big journey to a destination that we're currently living. Which is awesome! What we see, looking back, is a collection of events that have gotten us to this place. Right here, right now.
Feeling foolish always takes a backseat to focusing on success. When we're facing failure in the moment, remember that what just happened is simply part of the journey. Remind yourself of all the great things you've already done and use that to get excited about all the awesome stuff you have yet to do.
Aristotle said it best: Excellence is never an accident. It's the result of high intention, sincere effort, and the vision to see obstacles as opportunities.
Lots of love and encouragement,